Do You Want Me to Take You Seriously?

Do you want me to take you seriously?You invite a guest to attend a monthly meeting of one of our chapters. Do you know what you’ve done? You’ve established the credibility of your guest. I figure you have invited this person for a reason.

You think highly enough of them that they fit our profile of a good member: QUALTITY PERSON, BUSINESS-TO-BUSINESS, AND NETWORKING IS IN THEIR DNA.

That is the first part of the vetting process we have established for potential new members. Remember the old adage, “Good people run with good people, bad people run with bad people.”

So we invite your guest to attend the chapter meeting you’ve designated, they register for the meeting, and they show up. What happens after the meeting?

Your guest receives a personal note from me thanking them for being our guest. They receive an email asking them to visit our blog site and to subscribe. The next step in the process is for me to do this:


Here are the first red flags.

• They don’t have a LinkedIn profile.
• I can’t find them on LinkedIn because they use a nickname.
• Their LinkedIn profile does not have their picture.
• If they do have a profile, it’s a picture of their dog or cat or a cute picture with their fiancé.
• They’ve connected with a total of 27 people.
• I can’t figure out what they do based on the description of their business.
• They aren’t connected with multiple groups that would indicate their expertise in networking.
• They’re connected with groups that don’t make sense.
• They don’t tell me something about themselves outside of their business activities – I might connect with them on a personal level.

Yes, I could go on and on and on. I hope you get the drift. If you don’t, well, can I really take you seriously?

Good luck and good networking.


9 Responses to “ Do You Want Me to Take You Seriously? ”

  1. Tim Stowell
    September 20, 2013

    All good points AND very telling for anybody who has their eyes open. However, an even more telling sign is when the person gets invited to an invitation only group like SEBF…….and they don’t show up!

  2. September 20, 2013

    Yes, first red flag.

  3. John Byers
    September 20, 2013

    Great points. I love the LA candor in Nashville!

  4. September 20, 2013

    I love the red flags concept. You mention in your reply to Tim that it’s the “first red flag.” It might be interesting to see a post on other types of red flags.

    Love this post!

  5. September 20, 2013

    Yes, great idea for a blog post . . . other red flags. I’ll work on that.

  6. John Byers
    September 20, 2013

    Love this post, Stew. I enjoy the LA candor in the heart of the south.

  7. September 20, 2013

    I do agree, it is amazing how loud a person’s LinkedIn can speak of them if they are in the business to market themselves. There is a direct corrrelation.

  8. September 22, 2013

    Great points Stew. An added perspective is this: The SBF will only be as effective as the guests we bring. I’m with Ivie, Kevin and Tim. The reminders are important for all of us as we meet prospective members.

    • September 23, 2013

      Yes, very good point. This is probably the single most important reason why we had to close down the Green Hills Chapter. I find that there is a correlation between the SEBF members who consistently bring guests and their success in the Business Forum.

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